Thoughts of the month of January

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          Happiness is a state of mind. It is not always easy to practice but so much necessary. Happiness won't fall from the sky. We have to work on it each day. It starts with learning to be positive, to love ourself, to enjoy each moment, etc.

          Happiness is within reach, but we have to learn to grab it.

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It's true that sometimes we can be our worst enemy and that learning to know ourself, to accept ourself and to correct ourself is not easy. Even so, it brings so much that we have to patiently make the effort, each day, to allow ourself to be better.

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No matter how cold it is, when we walk close to the person we love, we're warm inside. I miss this warmth.

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          Haha, I love this joke ! Age, is definitely in the head. It's more of a state of mind. There are seniors who are more on great form and have more energy than some young people ! Age is not a fatality, it's up to us to decide of our state of mind.

          And if the mind is young, the body will follow. :)

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It's so true ! It's dream and faith that make us do our best, without it, we wouldn't cross our own limits ...

A bit of cuteness to start the week ! *Hug*

          This is a French video, and sadly, it is not translated at all. The storyline is that Arthur, the main character, becomes allergic to technology. Everytime that he gets in contact with it, it burns him.
          The first days are rough, he gets bored, cut out from any social activity, and his place at work is in danger. Then, after going to his grandma's, he gets a box full of things we used in the past. Like a telephone. You know, the old kind. The kind on which you have to roll the "number wheel" to compose a phone number. The one that you can't walk around the house with. This helps him get back to society and he decides to have a party at home.
          He uses vinyls to put some music on, takes an actual instant camera and put the photos on a wall, (calling it "Instagram"), etc. By doing so, he proves that technology is not needed to have fun. And when everyone is busy looking through their phones, filming the guitarist, he just enjoys the moment.
          At work, he decides to take care of the archives, reorganizing it and becoming so much needed by all his colleagues looking for a document.
          When he is interviewed and asked "How do you live as a technophobe ?", he simply answers :
"You get used to it."

          I loved this video from Cyprien. I think it's really wise and moving. Somehow I also can relate to it. Technology is starting to take a bit to much place in my life, I get off my cell more and more, and I'm no longer attracted by social medias, (I only use them as a blogger, apart from Facebook which I find too intrusive in its member's lives). We're too much "connected", all the time having our eyes staring at a screen, fingers pianoting, and having life passing us by without waiting for us. I don't want the change of years to appear to me in a screen's reflexion. I don't want to raise my head one day and think : "Damn it, everything's changed around me, and I, didn't see anything. I participated in nothing, I didn't move. Life followed its flow, and me, I lost my time, and I can no longer catch up with it.".

          I was born in 1992. I haven't had a computer until my first year of high school. Sale for the cell phone. And yet, I wasn't bored, I lived perfectly well, and maybe even better.

          I believe we need to learn to slow down with technology. For it to exists is good in a certain measure, but we need to learn to gauge.

          To live, is not to do so through a screen. So let's be rebels and wild : let's live, simply live !

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          That's something I like to say around me, because I think that it really takes more strength and courage to cry in front of someone than to keep our tears.

          For me, I know that I hate to let someone see me crying - and I mean by that crying for real. It's clearly pride, and in this case, it's stupid, but I know that showing my vulnerability is not something that I am able to do easily. I never cry in public, I always swallow my tears. And I think that globally, we are all scared to let someone witness our weakness. I genuinely believe that it asks an incredible strength of mind and an incredible amount of trust to be able to let ourself slack in the most immodest way, let ourself be fragile and totally accessible, to be able to cry in front of someone.

          When you think about it, isn't it easier to pretend, withdraw into ourself, then go cry all we have when we're alone ? That's why I disagree with saying that someone who's crying in front of others is weak. Somehow, I admire it and I know that I would be terrified at the idea of someone witnessing this moment, so I give way more credits to the people able to do so than the others.

          And to you gentlemen, I'd like to tell you that I think that a man is never as manly as when he cries. Your way - or rather your ways - of crying are so sincere that they give so much strength in their authenticity which is amazing and ... very, very attractive.

          I know that generally, society expects from men to be strong and infallible, and that crying, being sensible, is something perceived as castrating, but I think that on the opposite, there is a strength and a courage in the abandon, way more powerful than at any other moment. And you have the right to be moved by something, that doesn't make you less of a man.

          Men are handsome when they cry, and most of all : that's their right.

          Being a man or being a woman, you have to be courageous, to cry in front of others. We, who hide, in comparison, are way more cowards.

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Ah yes, I personally find it very funny ! Well, as long as I am the one receiving the mail ... :p

Haha, I hope that you're having a wonderful day my friends ! ♥

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Do I need to add anything ?

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          After reading the very wise and very sincere post from a blogger friend, I remembered a story I read as a child, and which made a huge impression on me until today. Of course, I tell you the story from memory so the words are not faithfull, but the great ligns and moral from the story, on the other hand, are :

          It's the story of a couple who decides to go sell a young donkey at the market. They put their donkey into a little wheelbarrow pulled by the husband thinking that since the animal is supposed to be sold, it needs to get to the market full of energy so it can attract the buyers. On the way, they meet two friends talking. Crossing them, they hear one of them saying : "Look at that ! Those idiots put their donkey in the cart and they're the ones pulling it !", and the other to add : "What nonsense ! Since when is it the human who pulls his animal ? It's supposed to be the opposite !". Ashamed, the husband and wife decide then to let the animal pull the cart.

          That's when they meet other people, and hear them commenting after seeing them : "Look at this poor beast ! It has to pull the weight of both its masters and the cart, it's way too much for it !". Surprised and confused, the couple decides then to abandon the wheelbarrow and to walk side by side with the animal. There again, they end up coming across people : "Those two have a donkey and don't get the opportunity to ride it !". Which they then decide to do. Then, some miles away : "Poor beast ! It's so tiny and has to carry both of its masters !". The husband hearing this decides to only let his wife on the animal. But then again, the people they meet exclaim : "The husband, who's the one working hard, has to walk too, while his wife is resting on the donkey. It should be him on this animal !". Once again, the couple listens to the comments and the husband takes his wife's place. When suddenly : "What a shame ! The husband who's stronger is resting on this animal while his wife has to follow him on her feet !". Not able to stand it anymore, the husband gets down and exclaim :

          "Whatever we do, we will always find some to criticize ! Now my donkey is tired and won't be bought on the market, and I even abandoned my wheelbarrow ! From now on, I won't listen to other's comments and I will act depending on what I would have decided !".

          The moral of this story is very simple, but so much actual ! We could do our best, there will always be people who won't be satisfied. Sometimes, it will even be the same people who will criticize the two possibilities, (see ?!). On top of that, in order to please others, we can sometimes lose our own purpose, our own interest, and end up doing worse than what we would have done on our own.

          Of course, it doesn't mean that you have to never listen to others, let's not exagerate. But we need to learn to put things into perspective : who is giving me advice ? Is it someone who has my best interest at heart ? Do I indeed see the advantage or sense in what's telling me this person ? After thinking, can I understand this person's opinion and think it's a good one ?

          The most important in life, is not so much to not make a mistake - because who can brag about never making a mistake ? - but to have as wish to not make a mistake, to do things well.

          So do not worry about what will people say in general, as long as you think you're doing right and that you have the opinion of those whom you can trust, because this is, the most important. :)

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What we take for granted, may in reality be  the miracle of somebody else.

What we think is obvious, may be realized because someone wished it with their everything.

What you think is impossible, have you wished for it strong enough ?

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It's also true for the everyday life ! ! (Even if sometimes accumulation itself says something about a reality.)

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Just so I reassure my mom 'cause it drives her crazy : she tells me that I suffer from Peter Pan syndrome, haha ! :p And what about you boys, does it happen to you ?

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No, serioulsy, I'd like to understand ! xD

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          Most of the time it's more like : "Cool !", but sometimes ... let's say that it's less charming ! ;)

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          That's exactly how I want my blog to be. A place where we can gather, at any time, to have a great time, to share, while being ourselves. Because we all need that kind of place, and because sadly, we don't always have it at home.

          I would like for the blog to be the opportunity for you to share, to express yourself, of course in the respect but without the fear of other's reaction, without holding back because of the fear of looking like a fool or of not being "in the norm". I want it to be a place of expression, of learning, and of well-being. A break in the day where you feel good and from which you get boosted.

          I also wish for it to be a place of trust, for you to know that you will always find here an sincere opinion, honest and indeed, by this fact, I am someone who will be able to come back on her words, because sometimes we change our mind.

          More than the beauty, I also want to inspire something positive, be it through humor or through a more serious reflexion. I want for us to be able to talk about a lot of subjects, either psychologist ones or aesthetic ones, to enrich the other's knowledge.

          That's why the blog is called "Mon Instant", ("My Moment" or "A Time For Myself"), because it is indeed a moment that can belong to whoever wants it. Welcome to your home !

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          After a time of missing, the Thoughts are back ! Sorry about this sudden stop, it wasn't my intention but sadly it had been difficult for me to keep publishing the Thoughts regularly lately. But here I am !
          In this new year I want to say "Welcome" to all the new people who discover the blog and my YouTube account, to the new subscribers and to the people who follow me on the social medias. Welcome, thank you for following me and I hope that you will have a great time - your time. Love. ♥

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          Happy New Year 2015 ! I hope that 2014 ended up smoothly and that 2015 announced itself in the best way ! If it has not been the case, I truly am sorry, and know that I sympathize, really. But even so - and we could consider this as a good resolution for the new year - I think that we need to be able to accept our disarray, our pain, our sorrow or anything else, in order to get through this feeling and be strong enough to accept to be happy despite it.
          So no matter how 2015 started for you, I wish it from the bottom of my heart to you : happy and joyful new year ! ♥